Love Advice from Modern Family

By Jason Leung | Jul 10th, 2014

Celebrate Valentine's Day by cuddling up with a countdown of the best love advice from Modern Family.

#8 Keep the Fire Alive with Creativity

Phil Sings a Song He Wrote for Claire|She's a Claire-acuda!|Phil sings an original song he wrote for Claire for their 20th wedding anniversary.

Find creative ways to show you care and to keep the romance burning. For his 20th anniversary with Claire, Phil writes a song to serenade her during the school fair in the episode, "A Fair to Remember." Don't let your relationship flounder -- be wise like a buddha and keep at it like a "Claire-acuda."

#7 Act Your Age

Mitchell, Haley and Guest Star Justin Kirk|Stop acting your egg age.|Mitchell's client Charlie tries to hit on Haley.

Most love interests will be unimpressed by those who try too hard to be something they're not. Regardless, Mitchell's client Charlie Bingham (guest star Justin Kirk from Weeds) gives it the old college try (that's definitely the age group he's aiming for) when Haley catches his eye in the episode, "First Days." For a good relationship, act your age and be yourself. Don't be a Charlie Bingham.

#6 Be Faithful

Haley vs. Andy the Manny|Haley's first meeting with Andy.|Andy (guest star Adam DeVine) confronts Haley, who has trouble believing he might have a girlfriend.

Love is a commitment, so stick to it. Even if you're engaged to be engaged to someone who lives way out in Utah, don't give in to temptation. Andy the manny (guest star Adam DeVine) wises up to Haley's seductive manipulation because he's true to his love of eight years (it's their relationship that's 8 years old, not his girlfriend). For more on the manny, including his best quotes, check out the episode, "The Help."

#5 Be Proud of Your Relationship

Cam Tells His Grandma He's Engaged|Cam vs. Grams|Cam's grandmother isn't very open-minded, but he finally decides to tell her that he and Mitchell are engaged.

If a relationship is worth your time, then you should never be afraid to show it off to the world. When Cam tries to hide his engagement from his conservative grandmother, Cam realizes that he's devastating his partner in the process so he eventually steps up to proudly reveal his relationship with Mitchell (in the episode "ClosetCon '13"). It was easy for Cam and Mitch to read the signs that grandma wouldn't be very accepting (she literally made a sign in protest), but if there's something worth standing up for, it's love.

#4 Don't Hide Your Emotions

Jay: Mr. Sensitive|Why does he push people away?|Gloria and Manny discuss Jay's habit of pushing people away in Modern Family's Season 5 episode, "Three Dinners."

Good relationships are based on honesty, so never mask your feelings. Fear tends to be the main reason people hide their emotions, and that's exactly why Jay sometimes hides behind his gruff facade. In the episode, "Three Dinners," Jay discovers that his fear of losing loved ones causes him to push away the people he cares for. And while he learns his lesson, it still doesn't mean that he'll ever come around to being touchy-feely with Phil.

#3 Learn to Give and Take

Haley the Elf and Alex as Mrs. Claus|Haley and Alex are Santa's little helpers.|The mall Santa leaves his station so it's up to Haley and Alex Dunphy to stop him and fend off the angry kids and parents on Christmas Eve.

There's always a little pushing and pulling in every relationship, and it's those little compromises that'll help make the day-to-day a little easier. Not even Santa and his wife are free from tiny little arguments, and when Alex dresses as Mrs. Claus for the mall Christmas event in the episode "The Old Man & the Tree," she's quick to put him on her naughty list. But maybe talking things through would've helped her and Santa be more jolly... for the sake of the children.

#2 Go All In

Jay and Manny Get a Marriage License?|"I already paid for you!"|Manny tells Jay he's getting cold feet...about traveling.

Fully commit to your relationship. Everyone gets cold feet now and then like Manny does in the episode "Suddenly, Last Summer," and a healthy relationship involves both partners dedicating themselves to one another and supporting each other through thick and thin. Jay does just that when he stands by his Manny so that the two of them can follow through with their life-changing decision. Wait. Maybe that's not what this video clip is about exactly, but the advice is still accurate.

#1 Make Every Moment Special

Don't take anything for granted in your relationship and hold on to every moment you have together. Even something as mundane as changing a flat tire can become the biggest moment in your relationship. If you're Mitch and Cam in the episode "Suddenly, Last Summer," that little tire-changing moment becomes the unforgettable time you propose and decide to spend the rest of your life with someone. If you're the family in the house down the hill, that tiny car-maintenance moment becomes the aawful time that a runaway tire crashes through your house. OK, so not every moment is going to be a good one, but as long as you're with a loved one, then it's a special time worth cherishing.

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